What HIMYM has to say on love

This has been in my head all week & I had to get it out. Let me just start off by saying I absolutely adore dr. x’s speech on love. It’s beautiful, heartfelt & arguably the greatest description of the concept I’ve ever heard. That being said, I did have a few issues with it. What if this girl he’s describing marries someone else & they’re together until death do they part? I mean how does he fit into that scenario? Is he just supposed to spend the rest of his life alone & unloved? Because I don’t necessarily agree with that. I think we need to understand our worth & put our happiness first every now & then. I mean what’s the point of having all that love if it’s just going to go to waste in the end?

& this series is no stranger to depicting, shall we say, problematic relationships. I don’t know what they were thinking pushing robin & swarley together but that whole thing was a train wreck from start to finish. He claimed to love her but it was very apparent that could not be further from the truth. For starters, he had to manipulate & gaslight her just to get her to say yes to his proposal. & even when she found out about the scheme, she still consented for some reason. Frankly, I don’t know who’s more messed up in that scenario. Not to mention at one point, he claimed he would never lie to her again & then does not more than a day or two later. Not to mention they fought all the time & drove each other to eat until they got fat. She even punched him on more than one occasion. This relationship was toxic from the start whether you want to admit it or not.

I mean I admire his tenacity & unrelenting pursuit of true love but if it’s at the expense of your own happiness, that definitely does not seem to fall under the definition of love. It just seemed like he was (if i may quote daughtry) waiting for superman. Luckily, it all worked out for him in the end between the deaths & divorces but there was no guarantee any of that was actually going to transpire. All I’m saying is if you just want to be a simp the rest of your life, that’s your prerogative but I think all (or at least the majority) of us deserve better than that.